Bonnie's Library
The Gay Husband Checklist for Women Who Wonder
The Gay Husband Checklist for Women Who Wonder is Bonnie’s first book, republished from the 1999 version. In this book, she discusses her own personal story, gives easy to understand checklists of what to look for in a gay husband as well as a checklist of the prototype of woman that gay men seek out as wives, explores the “myth” of Bisexuality, and talks about some of the hard-hitting issues facing straight wives following their suspicions or discovery of their husbands’ Homosexuality. This is a great starter book for women who are just learning the truth about their reality.
Doomed Grooms: Gay Husbands of Straight Wives
Doomed Grooms: Gay Husbands of Straight Wives is Bonnie’s second book. In this book Bonnie explains how these marriages directly affect a woman’s sense of self and sexual esteem, the effect of the Internet luring men into the world of homosexuality, the controversy of changing a husband’s sexuality, the mourning stages after a marriage is over, and why staying in these marriages is self-destructive for the spouse and the children. Doomed Grooms also contains interviews with members of Kaye's online support group from different parts of the world, as well as interviews with two of Kaye's gay male peer counselors who help gay husbands come out to their wives. She also shares heart-felt letters from both straight wives and gay husbands to show the emotional impact felt on both sides.
ManReaders: A Woman's Guide to Dysfunctional Men
In the book ManReaders, Bonnie talks about the world of unsavory STRAIGHT men who are predators seeking the same kind of women that gay men seek out. Bonnie shares more details of her own personal life that led her to her life-time battle against Low Self Esteem. She emphasizes that this is the key to finding the wrong person in your life. Until women recognize this, they will continue to make poor choices in their personal relationships. Bonnie talks about men with a variety of emotional, mental, and sexual dysfunction outside the “gay” realm. She also teaches you how to do your own “Man Reading” before getting too involved with men. There are interviews with her other Man Reading friends giving tips on what to look for in relationships.
Straight Wives: Shattered Lives
Straight Wives: Shattered Lives is a compilation of 27 stories from members of Bonnie Kaye’s international support group. These women tell their personal stories about the emotional impact of being married to a gay man in order to help millions of other women living with or leaving their straight/gay marriages with advice on how to move on. Women who don't understand how these "mis-marriages" (mistaken marriages) happen will learn from others about the dynamics of these relationships.
How I Made My Husband Gay: Myths About Straight Wives
How I Made My Husband Gay is a self-help book for women who learn or suspect that they may be married to a gay/bisexual man. This book helps women by revealing the signs and patterns in their marriages that could be “Red Flags.” There are 35 stories from members of Bonnie Kaye's international support group who talk about those signs they initially missed, as well as how they were blamed by their gay husbands for the failures in their marriages. Kaye also has her women discuss ways that they “caught” their husbands, as well as how they started over after ending the marriage which she refers to as a “mis-marriage” or a mistaken marriage.
Bonnie Kaye's Straight Talk:
A collection of Her Best Newsletters About Gay Husbands
Bonnie Kaye’s Straight Talk is a collection of the best of her monthly newsletters from 2001 – 2008. These are the newsletters that her support network members call their “lifeline” when unraveling the complexities of their marriages to their gay husbands.
In Bonnie’s own words, “This is the best survival guide for women who suspect or find out that their husbands are homosexual. These newsletters were written from my heart about my own life experiences as well as those of some of my support network members. I clearly explain how and why your husbands are gay, as well as provide good advice on how to handle those difficult situations such as rebuilding your sexual esteem and self-esteem. After reading this book, you will understand how to make the only rational choice to survive emotionally after this happens to you. It will help you identify with the millions of other women in this situation who can identify and feel every raw emotion you are going through now, as well as understand the challenges you face in the years ahead of healing and starting over.” Kaye has written four other books to address this topic, but she believes that this collection of her newsletters is “The best of my best!”